~ To You.. My Girlfriends ~

Well, i have decided to dedicate this entry to all my GIRLFRIENDS out there.. I love Fiza-O's show on Ria 89.7 "Girlfriends.." She can relate very well to the listeners and the advises she give is 'masuk akal' types.. But i super super hate it when I heard girls out there who was being bullied, battered, punched, kicked and two timed by their boyfriends, fiancees and also husbands.. who forgave them easily.. and reconciled, only to receive the same treatments again and again..

" Apa nak buat Fiza, sabarlah je lah.. I believe one day he will change ".. Inilah orang melayu kita.. orang perempuan melayu kita.. to be exact.. Sedih, tapi hakikat.. based on the listeners who called in and smsed in on Fiza-O's programme..

I can't help it but debate with Hub while listening to the radio and driving, one day.. There's this particular malay girl who have been in a relationship with a guy for about 2 years.. She's been abused by her boyfriend repetitively and often initiate a break up.. but when they do, they reconciled in a matter of a few days.. just because she believed he will change .. Adoiii!!! Ni baru je berpacaran dik, nanti dah kahwin macam mana?? Entah2, cik abang kita banting2 awak agaknye.. So I asked my husband..

"Apa agaknya perasaan seorang lelaki yg suke nahhhh pantas tangan? Tumbuklah.. terajang lah.. kenapa eh??"

"Alah.. laki2 macam gini selalu ingat dorang ni have controls over the woman.. and bila dah matair tuh.. they think they own her.. So sikit2 nak emotional.. so bila dah too emotional.. they can't control their feelings and that resulted in the abuses.. dorang lupa.. yg ALLAH jadikan lelaki untuk 'protect' wanita.. bukan untuk jadi bahan untuk mereka bantai membantai, kalau suka nah nak bantai membantai.. masuk WWF " Ustaz Hisham berceramah sambil2 tgk rear and side mirrors.. hee hee.. (fyi.. there are times when i called my hub: STONE COLD SHAM STINKO.. cos he hates WWF)

My hub lak ask me.. " Then kaum wanita pun.. kalau dah kena bantai tu.. belah sudahlah.. lagi nak terhegeh-hegeh.. nak tunggu muka bengkak2 jadi square(mcm Spongebob) baru nak menyesal.. "

I mencelah.. " Pa, kaum wanita ni lemah.. jiwa raga lembut... and they always believe that guys they loved will change.. sebab sifat kita beginilah kita selalu kena dipermainkan, diperbodohkan.. but I believe there are other girls out there who are stronger.. physically and emotionally.. "

alamak! dah ter-sidetrack lah.. ok2..

I hope girlfriends, kita jgnlah berlembut sangat.. if your boyfriends hit you, report them.. who are they to hit u?? The best, avoid them totally.. if possible.. change your contact numbers etc.. lelaki macam ni doesnt deserve you.. anyway, setakat boyfriend-girlfriend, takde ikatan oii.. mcm biskut chipsmore? sekejap ada, sekejap takde... hhaaa.. mcm tulah..

As for those yg dah mengikat tali pertunangan, I know it's hard to call off the engagement.. but think of this... If you allow this engagement to prolong and leads to marriage, are you going to be happy that every day you kena thrashed? Please.. think.. not twice.. but berkali kali because it concerns your future.. and men sometimes don't mean what they say.. they'll say they'll change but they never prove it..

Mangsa yg paling kesian adalah yg sudah berumahtangga... nak kahwin happy and senang.. sign je marriage certs, go for pre-marital course and plan plan plan tau tau dah kpak bing bing..!! nak cerai??? susah... I know bcos my mom went through it.. turun naik mahkamah.. counselling sana sini.. haiiiz.. not easy tau.. but don't just because of these difficulties make you (the abused wives) dok diam kan diri.. do all the necessary reports.. take up PPO and show him what you are capable of.. be strong.. for your future.. if you still think you wanna be patient and believe he will change.. then its all up to you.. if dah berkali-kali you give chances and no changes, then its high time u stand up and say "I'm sorry..... GOODBYE!"..

I strongly recommend Fiza's radio programme.. it's entertaining and knowledgeable.. at least you know that you are not alone facing the same kind of problems.. This is Life... but its up to YOU to decide your LIFE.. Money is second important.. the most important value in LIFE is HAPPINESS..

I have not found 100% happiness in my LIFE yet.. but I am in pursuit of it..

So girlfriends, don't forget to remember: ENJOY LIFE.. DON'T LET THAT SOMEONE TAKE THAT ENJOYMENT AWAY FROM YOU.. THINK AND ACT WISELY.. IF U FAILED ONCE.. U WON'T FAIL FOREVER..

.Love.Peace.Happy.