Monster-In-Law..??

Every women (or maybe not for the fortunate ones) in this world who gets married have a similiar fear... MOTHER IN LAW.. I too will not deny that.. In fact, until today after being married for 5 years, I still have a distant relationship with her... distant as in when we are together for an outing or dinner.. I simply can't have a decent discussion.. not like mother and daughter.. instead I would be very quiet and very the not myself lah.. Its not that I'm a hypocrite or I'm pretentious.. I don't want to be that.. but somehow I think rather than I commit anything that's wrong or criminal to her eyes.. I'd rather keep quiet and talk when I needed to.. but u see, its different with my husband's aunts.. I'd talk freely with them and laughed and joked whenever I want to.. simply because I feel comfortable with them.. and I think they are not judgemental..

aiyoh.. i'm beginning to sidetrack. Well.. this entry is not about my MIL.. otherwise there's no ending... but its someone dear to me.. who's MIL is cracking her up..

She's working 9-5 and when she's at work, her MIL cares for her children.. something which we think waaa! So gracious yeah?? yeah?? but until the recent incidents that's enought to initiate another tsunami... (hopefully not in Singapore lah) and while other Singaporeans are uptight about the fugitive's(Mas Selamat) toilet-break that went wrong, she's damn uptight with her MIL.. but then again, knowing that her MIL is very the extremely sensitive, she chose to remain quiet and be patient.. until the 'tsunami' erupted this very morning..

I was told that she woke up late and was rushing to iron her clothes.. and at the same time her MIL also want to iron her childrens' clothes.. (but the children start school at 9am and its only behind her HDB block) so.. she relented.. when her MIL have finished ironing, she quickly grabbed the iron (she's late already mahhh) but her MIL took it as she's being rude.. OK.. so she got ready and before she left the home, she wanted to kiss her MIL hand.. which her MIL gave but not sincere lah.. (she said can see from the way she took out her hands and her face).. but when she was under her void deck.. she sensed something was wrong and went back home... when her husband (MIL son lah) questioned her she said she couldnt go to work with a heavy heart knowing that something is not settled in her home.. that instant the MIL came out and shouted all sorts of things lah... to cut the long story short.. the MIL mentioned smtg that made the son seething with anger..

She said: Mak kat sini jaga anak2 kau pon sebab mak nak jaga 3 org kesayangan mak... (3 orang??)

In english: I'm here because I wanna take care of my 3 beloved ones..

Which is the son and her 2 grandchildren...

So the son couldn't take it.. because its obvious that the mom doesnt love, care or concern for the wife (my friend lah) so whats the point right??? So, the son told the mom that she doesn't have to care for him and the kids anymore and she can pack her stuffs and go back to Malaysia.. (The mom is residing in M'sia)... Now when this happens and words get out, who will get the blame?

Simple: DAUGHTER IN LAW...

Not easy, not easy...

So the best person to care for your children is still your very own mother and not MOTHER IN LAW.. but of course I admit that not every MIL is like that..

So what's becoming of this friend of mine now?
1: Full time childcare for the children
2. hire a maid
3. Quit her job
and obviously, the husband chose number 3.. but she is still compromising... I hope everything will turn out well for her family.. and her MIL.. too.. we are after all humans and its human to err..
but lets treat everyone equally.. stop comparing and give the liberty to us daughter in laws to decide.. they too were once in our positions so they should know better.. encouraging words helps better than unnecessary and irrelevant remarks..

till then..